Costs and benefits of mirroring

What is mirroring?

Reinforcement learning: normal learning

Everything backtracks to our own feelings, only source of objective learning and sanity

Practical limits of reinforcement learning on learning from others

Implies significant abstraction barriers to learning from others, produces significant practical limits on this model of learning

We need a native addition to reinforcement learning, not an abstraction

Mirror model of learning

Mirroring refers to the idea that sometimes we learn from others by watching how they react to events, and feel and act how they do in order to learn from that

empathy is a type of mirroring

Mirroring does not refer to mirror neurons.

Tuning of mirroring

Mirroring all the time is clearly bad, introduces extra pain to unknown gain

Mirroring has a tuning parameter which can control how much it occurs

Allows a nice solution to the abstraction problem of reinforcement learning

Real examples of mirroring

Costs of mirroring

Case 1: Reflective stress before quals

Stress reached irrational levels when mirrored between people before finals An example of the recurrence property of mirroring getting out of control because of incorrect tuning. My guess from observation is that since no one knew much about the qual, people assumed other people knew more of the dangers of qual than themselves, which is a good heuristic in most cases, but in this case was always false.

Case 2: Losing separation of myself and others

Case 3: Sociopathy in a mirror dependent society

In a world where people assume everyone has a mirror, there is a way to exploit this assumption when one has the ability to turn off their mirror

Benefits of mirroring

I took the same 3 problems, and gave their opposite side.

These are useful examples of mirroring, but also to support my belief that society has found good and bad places for every major human characteristic.

Case 1: Reflexive morality

Case 2: Hyper-learning: climbing up the backs of titans via extreme mirroring

Case 3: Dispassionate philanthropy

Mirroring and deep relationships

This is the reason why I wrote this

Cannot create meaningful relationships without curiosity

Curiosity is suppressed when mirroring is high, you only look for reactions to other people, not look for new reactions

On the other hand, you cannot know enough about people to create deep relationships without mirroring.

Limits of mirroring

Smart man vs Wise man Perhaps this adage can be thought to mean that the smart man cannot learn from others

Limited observational capabilities

We need to actually understand what they are feeling to mirror them. This is difficult even for humans

Cannot target learning

The reinforcement learning idea of exploring most promising unknown paths does not work. We learn what we see, and no more

Creates basic limits on the depth of learning that can happen

Conclusion: Generalized role of mirroring

Mirroring helps us with the highest level of learning. Allows us to learn things that cannot be learned in a single lifetime by most people

Helps propagate cultural and social norms

Is an essential thing for us to have, but has significant danger, and should be watched carefully, and recognized as something we can and should control